I think it’s really important that girls and women alike understand their right to be treated well in a relationship. After being in an emotionally abusive relationship for 3 years what shocked me the most was how I was never as alone as I thought I was. Friends from school and work were always talking about their relationships and I could feel the turmoil that they were going through, I could sense that stress and anxiety, and all the while I’m thinking, “Why aren’t you out of this, why haven’t you left?” Well, of course they haven’t. It took me so many tries to really get myself out of my relationship. I don’t even think girls realize when they’re being abused. I didn’t realize it happened to me until a therapist laid it out for me.
The fact of it is. If a boy is causing you more pain than happiness, more stress than joy, and is draining you of your energy instead of empowering you and making you feel good, chances are he is no good for you. Love is so hard, walking away from it is even harder, and loving yourself enough to want love that is better for you might be the hardest thing of all. Both parties have the right to leave a relationship at any time, if he leaves-let him. Understand something greater is coming your way. Being a woman in this world is not easy, don’t let a man be what makes it harder for you.